Will she or won’t she? There was much debate regarding Kate Middleton’s wedding vows – whether she’ll include “obey” to the list of promises she makes to Prince William.
According to recent reports, the Archbishop of Canterbury, Dr. Rowan Williams — who will oversee the nuptials on Friday — said the royal couple discussed the wording with him earlier this month.
“They’ve thought through what they want for themselves, but also what they want to say,” the archbishop said. “They’ve had a very simple, very direct picture of what really matters about this event.”
It’s been reported that Williams has been against the term “obey,” going so far as to argue that it could possibly be used to justify domestic violence in a 2006 report published by the Archbishops’ Council.
Kate will not be the first to have strayed from the tradition. Princess Diana also dropped the word from her 1981 vows to Prince Charles. Other royals, however, including Sarah Ferguson and Sophie Rhys-Jones, have included it in their nuptials.
Of their wedding, the archbishop said he thought the couple had a “clear sense” of what they believed their wedding meant and hoped their very public commitment would inspire others with a message of hopefulness and generosity.
“They’re responsible to the whole society, and responsible to God for their relationship. And I think it’s impressive that they’ve had that simplicity about it, they’ve known what matters, what’s at the heart of all this,” Williams said.