So Cosmopolitan Magazine, aka every woman’s secondary Bible published an article regarding a recent study (–click in for article–) that found insecure people are more desirable and better at dating, my first thought was, No way in hell. As Cosmo editors, we interview tons of relationship experts, authors, and real guys, and never once has anyone told us that insecurity is attractive to men. In fact, we know that the exact opposite is true: We hear all the time that one of the hottest traits in a woman is confidence. Basically, the researchers behind this study thought that people who aren’t confident try harder to seem interesting. And secure daters often come off as arrogant. We totally agree that arrogance can be a major turn-off, but perhaps those who conducted the study forgot that there are plenty of secure, self-assured, self-confident women who aren’t arrogant. And uh, are we the only ones who think it’s way better to actually be interesting rather than to just “appear interesting”? Do you agree with the study or do you think men are more attracted to secure women?