From ehow.com
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Step 1
The first thing is to ask yourself if you are getting what you want. Write down what your wants are and then look at the list critically and determine if each of those are reasonable. If you notice that several things are reasonable and you are not getting what you want then it may be time to break up. If you are not totally happy he may not be either so you would actually be helping him by breaking up.
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Step 2
The next question to ask is if you can still communicate with each other. As we age and time goes on we change our communication style. Someone who previously loved the phone may no longer like it. He may now communicate almost exclusively with blackberry texting. If this is true you may need to adapt to texting, if you can not then it may be time to move on. Inability to communicate is a major issue and you probably do not want to spend the rest of your life butting heads trying to talk to each other.
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Step 3
Now ask yourself if you still enjoy spending time alone with your partner. If you do not look forward to spending time together, in fact invite other people over to avoid spending time alone then you may be ready to break up.
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Step 4
Do you find yourself looking at your guy and wishing this or that about him were different? If so it probably is not true love.
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Step 5
Similarly if you are comparing him to others then it likely is not true love. In true love no matter what you do not compare him to anyone else and he does not compare you to anyone else.
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Step 6
Can he still tickle you and make you laugh. If not then honey I am afraid your relationship has lost that spark.
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Step 7
Do you feel like you are doing all the giving? Do you feel like are making efforts to contact him, you are taking steps to hang out, and you are trying to at least have conversations with him and you get nothing. He calls you when he feels like it and ignores you when he feels like. I know this is sad to admit that you are in love with someone who doesn’t love you but this suggests that you are in love with someone that does not love you. Let him go because if you both do not love each other equally then you probably have no chance at a long term relationship.
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Step 8
Finally think about how you feel about yourself. If you passed the other questions but right now you feel bad about yourself you may need to let go and break up. Remember when you first met him and how happy it made you when he first touched you at the gym. Remember the feeling you had when you watched a movie together, and remember how wonderful you felt waking up next to him. If now you wonder if you are good enough for him, pretty enough, etc. it may be time to break up. It typically is not healthy to be in a relationship with a man who makes you feel insecure about yourself or like he is not sure you are the one for him. Remember there are many other guys out there, many of whom will value you and make you feel like the princess you are.
